My approach to couples therapy is EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy). EFT is one of the most successful approaches to therapy. It has recovery rates between 70% and 75% and an improvement rate of 90%.
Please listen to this short video by Dr. Sue Johnson, the creator of EFT.
"What is a healthy Marriage? "
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1dab34E4ON0
As you heard, there are fundamental questions to create a safe and secure emotional bond.
-Are you there for me?
-Do I matter to you?
-Will I come first?
-If I need or call you, would you come?
Do I feel safe enough to be in my spontaneous real self? As in Transactional Analysis, in our Natural Child?
If you want to learn more about EFT, here is link to ICEEFT (INternational Center for Excellence in Emotionally Focuse
Therapy) http://www.iceeft.com/